Reading Sheryl Sandberg’s book “Lean In” has got me thinking a lot about the nature of work in America. I agree with Ms. Sandberg’s theory that there is a “chicken and egg” paradox at play. Women are limiting themselves because they believe they can’t navigate through the system, and therefore the system doesn’t change to accommodate women’s needs. The system hasn’t changed to accommodate their needs, so women continue to choose not to participate in the system. There is a cyclical nature to the problem, and both women and men are affected. Our work culture has become more demanding and less fulfilling. For many women, the question of whether or not to engage and continue climbing is highly influenced by their choice to have a family. Many men also want to participate more actively in family life than in past generations. Corporate America is not keeping up with the changing times.
Americans work more than ever before. In “Lean In”, Sandberg quotes a study that shows that in 2009, married middle-income parents worked about eight a half hours more per week than in 1979. Typical hours used to be 9 to 5, with an hour for lunch. Today, it is 8 to 6 and we eat lunch at our desks or on the way to our next meeting. Also, technology allows us to access our work, and be accessed by work, almost anywhere, anytime. We can be reached by telephone, texting and email day or night. Those without set hours or who have the privilege of using flex-time have the flexibility to work even more hours unless they have firm boundaries for their time management. In addition, the volume of work that occurs on any given day is much more than what it used to be. Before computers, letters were sent and it took days to move a deal forward. Today, that same transaction might happen in a matter of minutes, and those transactions happen multiple times in a day. Yet pay for the average worker has barely kept up with the cost of living, and our expenses, such as healthcare, continue to grow.
While work life has bled into our personal lives, our personal lives have been shut out of the office. We are asked to compartmentalize our lives at a time when we need more integration of our work and personal lives to function. Throughout “Lean In,” Sandberg writes about times when she has made the decision to include her needs as a mother in her business life because she was making a conscious decision to change the culture in her workplace. It seemed risky for her to do so, even though she is at the top of the management chain. From my perspective as the spouse of a corporate worker I have seen that family has been forced out of the workplace over the last twenty years. When my husband started working, we had annual company picnics, holiday parties, and the occasional dinner out with the boss. His managers and co-workers met me and our children and in that more casual and relaxed setting developed a better relationship with my husband because there was a personal connection. As the years have passed, those picnics, parties and dinners have all been done away with in the name of budget cuts. The personal connection is minimal. There is no more time or money for developing those relationships. The businesses have decided that those relationships don’t have value for them.
And yet, in this same hyper-focused work environment, working women are supposed to be advocating for accommodations for pregnancy and breastfeeding, for bringing their infants to work, and for onsite childcare. Working fathers and others with family needs, like aging parents, are supposed to figure out how to juggle the demands of their life in a work environment that is taking over their lives without providing the tools necessary to allow for success. People grow and are energized by interactions with family and friends. Those interactions are necessary, and we suffer without them. As a workforce we are becoming less happy, less healthy, and ultimately less productive as we burn ourselves out. More and more young people are choosing to opt out altogether.
In our drive to maximize profits corporate leaders have neglected to understand that the foundation of corporate success is the workforce. If the needs of the workforce are not being adequately met, then the system will not thrive. If we truly value our position as a great nation with a talented, driven, creative, and unstoppable workforce, then corporations will need to widen their focus from the bottom line. They will need to take the initiative to solve these work/life balance problems in a way that serves the workforce that serves them. The equation that more work + more hours = bigger profits does not hold true. When the fight is between corporations and the American family, all of America loses.
If we could lift our eyes from the balance sheet and look out over the horizon, we would see an incredible potential for growth. It exists in activating our whole workforce in a way that allows for happiness, health, and balance which will feed creativity, productivity, and longevity. This means creating a workplace that allows men and women to thrive as employees and as whole people. It’s not just a question of the chicken and the egg – it’s breeding a whole new bird.